As I was driving home from grocery shopping today, Pink (P!nk) came on the radio. If her song “Please don’t leave me” doesn’t speak directly to the heart of many who experience borderline personality disorder (BPD) or emotional sensitivity, I don’t know what does.
Have listen for yourself, and let me know what you think:
(Note/Trigger Warning/TW: The video has some potentially triggering images of violence and other disturbing images. You may just want to listen to the lyrics)
When I was in my late teens and into my early to mid-twenties, I had different songs that resonated with the distress and sometimes angst that I felt, including Alanis Morissette’s “You Oughta Know,” and Jewel’s “Foolish Games.” Warning, they are both dramatic, and not necessarily effective mood-picker-uppers depending on how you’re feeling emotionally.
One of the reasons why these certain songs, among others, helped convey the BPD experience for me (even when I didn’t even know I had it) is because they matched the level of incredibly intensity with which I felt most of the time. Sadness was usually never just sadness – it was the pit of despair. Missing someone was usually never just missing them – it was feeling as if I were being torn apart in the most painful, excruciating way. I was no stranger to extreme emotional states.
So, if you could create a soundtrack to help express to others what it feels like to have BPD, be in recovery, or be emotionally sensitive, what songs would be in your mix? Have you ever told someone, “Hey, you gotta listen to this song – it’ll explain exactly how I feel!”?
Thanks for reading.
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