What if People With BPD Had a Soundtrack?

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As I was driving home from grocery shopping today, Pink (P!nk) came on the radio.  If her song “Please don’t leave me” doesn’t speak directly to the heart of many who experience borderline personality disorder (BPD) or emotional sensitivity, I don’t know what does.

Have  listen for yourself, and let me know what you think:
(Note/Trigger Warning/TW: The video has some potentially triggering images of violence and other disturbing images. You may just want to listen to the lyrics)



When I was in my late teens and into my early to mid-twenties, I had different songs that resonated with the distress and sometimes angst that I felt, including Alanis Morissette’s “You Oughta Know,” and Jewel’s “Foolish Games.” Warning, they are both dramatic, and not necessarily effective mood-picker-uppers depending on how you’re feeling emotionally.


One of the reasons why these certain songs, among others, helped convey the BPD experience for me (even when I didn’t even know I had it) is because they matched the level of incredibly intensity with which I felt most of the time.  Sadness was usually never just sadness – it was the pit of despair.  Missing someone was usually never just missing them – it was feeling as if I were being torn apart in the most painful, excruciating way.  I was no stranger to extreme emotional states.

So, if you could create a soundtrack to help express to others what it feels like to have BPD, be in recovery, or be emotionally sensitive, what songs would be in your mix? Have you ever told someone, “Hey, you gotta listen to this song – it’ll explain exactly how I feel!”?

Thanks for reading.

More Soon.

In kindness,
Debbie Corso Blog




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30 replies
  1. Dana Miskovic
    Dana Miskovic says:

    The last THE WEEKND album ” Beauty behind the madness” is perfect! I can guess he has been through some rough times! Talking about Pink…”don’t let me get me” is a huge anthem for me…Ed Sheeran ”Make it rain”, ”Drunk”…Tove Lo’s last album ..beyoncé ”Broken-hearted girl”… Kid Cudi ”Soundtrack 2 my life”… Birdy…and many more…don’t know what i would do without music! Luckily, there are some more cheerful songs on my phone lately…DBT therapy is working…not all the time, not every day…but it’s a lot better than it’s ever been. Keep on rockin’ Debbie! Greeting from Québec, Canada. :)

  2. Heather
    Heather says:

    If my life had a soundtrack it would be anything by Bright Eyes or any of Conor Oberst’s other projects, for that matter. Nothing else comes so close to capturing what this feels like. I would go so far as to say that his music has saved my life, it’s so profound for me. It kind of makes me wonder if he may be Borderline. I shouldn’t guess about someone whom I’ve never met, I don’t presume to know , but whatever it be, his more recent music has conveyed some spiritual transformation that certainly gives me hope as an individual with BPD.

  3. Jaclyn Johson
    Jaclyn Johson says:

    This is one of my favorite songs that I feel is a song that has been like a soundtrack to my life, not so much in relationships but just emotionally: Every day is exactly the same by Nine Inch Nails
    However I have more recently been more positive and upbeat in life and chosen a new soundtrack song to my life which I pump up every time I need to feel better : FIGHT SONG by Rachel Platten

  4. Cara
    Cara says:

    Hi Debbie thanku for sharing. your posts they have helped me to understand even more about my self & my bpd condition. It’s like a puzzle for me. slowly bit by bit I’m putting the pieces together & starting to understand me my self as a person thank you so much you have helped me more than any doctor or mental health ppl ever have. Xxx

  5. Sandy
    Sandy says:

    For sure most of Pinks songs..
    Jane says by Janes Addiction
    Hate Me by Blue October
    Down with a sickness by Disturbed
    Bodies by Drowning Pool
    Plush By STP

  6. Maggie
    Maggie says:

    “Dark Side” by Kelly Clarkson is amazing…

    “There’s a place that I know
    It’s not pretty there and few have ever gone
    If I show it to you now
    Will it make you run away?
    Or will you stay?
    Even if it hurts
    Even if I try to push you out
    Will you return?
    And remind me who I really am
    Please remind me who I really am”

  7. Kifyha Mosley
    Kifyha Mosley says:

    Make me wanna die by The Pretty Reckless
    No reflection by Marilyn Manson
    Ophelia by Emilie Autumn
    Time for tea by Emilio Autumn
    Most of Linkin Park’s songs
    Last resort by Papa Roach
    Comforting lie by No Doubt
    This means war by Avenged Sevenfold

  8. Valerie
    Valerie says:

    “Foolish Games”!!! This has been my absolute all-time favorite song since I was only six years old, and I’m now 27. I always wondered why this song had a calling out to me, but now that I am aware of my diagnosis and my emotions it all makes sense.

  9. Kristen
    Kristen says:

    I have a BPD Playlist on my blog :P

    1. Bitch by Meredith Brooks
    2. I’m Still Hot by Luciana
    3. Drama Queen by Suzie McNeil
    4. Break Stuff by Limp Bizkit
    5. Breaking the Habit by Linkin Park (The entire Hybrid Theory and Meteroa album actually)
    6. One More Night by Maroon 5
    7. Tourniquet by Evanesence
    8. I Bruise Easily by Natasha Bedingfield
    9. Slow Me Down by Emmy Rossum
    10. Nobody’s Perfect by Jessie J
    11. Black Widow by Iggy Azalea
    12. Never Gonna Let You Go by Esthero
    13. Foundations by Kate Nash

    • Karla
      Karla says:

      I listened to the song by Pink called Please Don’t Leave Me and watched the video. To me, it describes the pushing and pulling away of the person she seemed to love the most. In BPD, abandonment is a huge fear but so is getting close. Hence, the extreme emotions of violence and longing shown in Pink’s video. It also reminds me of the song I Hate You Don’t Leave Me by Demi Lavato.


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